Sex and pregnancy

We all know that sex is the cause of pregnancy, yes, strange but true.

However a lot of people have misconceptions (no pun intended) about whether or not it is safe to indulge in bedroom gymnastics while pregnant.

Short answer is yes, it is safe and perfectly natural to have sex from conception right up to birth. 

Your baby is protected and cushioned by many layers in your body, including the amniotic fluid. Sex would not be felt by the baby.

Of course there are a few exceptions. If your doctor has told you that you have placenta previa, when your placenta is covering your cervix, or other medical conditions that may harm you or the baby you should also avoid sex in this case.

There are a number of myths around sex and pregnancy. 

So let’s bust a few;

• Sex will not cause a miscarriage -True
• Your libido may increase during pregnancy -True
• Sex will not induce labor -True
• Contractions from orgasm will not affect the baby -True
• Vibrators are safe to use during pregnancy -True
• Oral sex is a safe and often a more comfortable option -True
• The baby will not know that you are having sex -True
• Most sexual positions are safe, but not always comfortable -True

Again, if your pregnancy is pre-determined as high-risk you should always talk to your doctor if you have concerns about having sex while pregnant.

Ok, so sex during pregnancy is perfectly fine but what about after pregnancy?

Well I’m glad you asked, this is a little more complex.

The average time to start reconnecting sexually with your partner is six weeks after birth.

This gives the body a chance to heal after the trauma of labor and child birth.

However, some women need less time let’s say four weeks and some women, more time, maybe months.

So many factors come into play here such as;

*Pain and tenderness 

*Fatigue 

*Finding the time with a new baby at home

*Worries about how it will feel

*Postpartum depression 

There are myths about post pregnancy sex also, so let’s bust a few of those;

• You will heal -True
• Your vagina will not be stretched out -True
• Your partner will still be attracted to you -True
• Your libido will return -True
• Your hormones will go back to normal -True

 So be patient you will get there, it just takes time. 

When you’re ready for sex again, remember that initially it will feel different but hopefully not as bad as you think. Remember to always ask your doctor if you have any concerns about sex and your body after pregnancy.

If you feel that your pelvic floor muscles need a work out, you can try using Kegel balls to help strengthen them and they come in different weights depending on your needs. 

If you want to try having sex again but you’re not ready for penetration you can buy vibrators for clitoral stimulation. Orgasms can be a great muscle workout. Then you feel that you are ready for penetration again, try using a lubricant to ease back into it. There are also super soft feel vibrators that you may enjoy more than something firm.

Our team here at Naked Passion are only too happy to talk to you about any concerns that you have either pre or post pregnancy.