BDSM is a combination of the abbreviation’s B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism).
Yes, it’s quite a mouthful, but BDSM is now used as a catch-all phrase covering an extremely wide range of activities.
When you hear BDSM, you're probably thinking about whips, chains and pain right? However, there are so many ways to enjoy BDSM. The only necessary tools needed are trust, consent and communication (and a good lube 😉).
BDSM can start with something as simple and gentle as wearing a mask while being tickled with a feather.
Wearing costumes and roll play is another form and then moving up to cuffs, bed restraints, temperature play and using floggers or pinwheels for stimulation. Extreme BDSM can involve some pain, for example, Shibari rope or body modification.
If you think you would like to give BDSM a try, first thing you should do is communicate with your partner about trying new things and perhaps spicing things up a little in the bedroom!
Start the conversation off with something along the lines of “I want to try something different in the bedroom, and I want to know if you’d like to try it too”.
Talk about your desires and listen attentively to your partner's opinion. Ask them questions about what they'd like to try as well. BDSM is all about consensually giving and receiving. Also remember never to shame your partner's kinks!
Chances are you’re probably not into everything your partner is, and vice versa, in and out of the bedroom. We’re all human, and we're all different.
Good communication and trust with your partner is critically important, a safe word that's distinctive, easy to say and completely unrelated to sex is a good idea as well. If you’re using a gag, you'll need a safe action like tapping on your partner with your feet or even making an odd head movement; it all depends on what you’re getting up to. So now when it's sexy time, you know each other’s boundaries and will know what's mutually wanted. It eliminates any chance of being uncomfortable, and without possible future resentment caused by lack of communication and accidental non-consent.
There are so many forms of kink, fetishes and BDSM play that we could never fit it all in this blog!
But that’s where Naked Passion will help, just drop into your closest store and chat with our friendly team about new things that you would like to try.
We will do our best to help you find that perfect toy, tickler, mask, gag, restraint, costume, drip candles, rope or whatever you need.
We are non-judgmental and giving help and information is literally a part of our job!
We try hard to break down myths and social stigmas around sex and we guarantee that you will leave the store with a whole wealth of information you didn't know before and a big bag of fun new things to play with.